Do you have someone in your life or are you the guilty party who constantly laments the same things to your friends, family, and co-workers expecting them to soothe your ego? For example, do you always say, “I’m so fat; I can’t believe how fat I am” and expect friends to say, “No you are not.” Maybe you are one of the friends on the receiving end of the dance who feels obligated to make the other person feel better. At either end of it, this scenario is exhausting and inauthentic.
Category: Mind & Spirit
I believe that there is no separation of body, mind and emotions. Thoughts, feelings, attitudes and belief systems all affect your physical well being in the same way that a dysfunction in your body can affect your mental well being.
Keeping healthy means therefore not only your physical health but also your mental and spiritual health. Finding meaning and a sense of purpose in life is an important part of your prescription for wellness.
One of my guiding principles in life is based on the notion of Ubuntu, an African word meaning what us makes us human is the humanity we show each other. Ubuntu is a belief in the universal bond of sharing that unites all humanity. It is a concept that is similar to what we know as compassion – compassion for ourselves, our family, our community, the global community and the earth.
In this section you will find posts on Ubuntu, stress reduction, relaxation, meditation and spiritual well-being.
Flourishing. That’s where it’s at. Brian Johnson takes a quick look at Martin Seligman’s latest book on the science of well-being, Flourish. Martin Seligman is the godfather of the positive psychology movement and in his new book, he describes the science of well-being.
We are all plugged up. Cell phones, blackberries, I-Pads, I-Pods and other electronic devices have erased the boundaries between work life and private life. At dinner we can switch from talking to our children about their day at school to answering an urgent message from a colleague in another time zone, to twittering about the awesome wine we’re drinking to skypeing with our boss whose away on a business trip. In the morning we immediately check one or all of our gadgets to make sure that even before we’ve had our first cup of green tea we feel a sense of urgency or dread that indicates that our workday has begun. It is now literally impossible to leave work at the office.
Stress is an obnoxious thing. If not managed, it can derail your career, love life, and compromise your brainpower. It saps your energy, causes you to do irrational things, and even makes you stupid. To do away with this feeling, we do all types of irrational behaviors, such as smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, swear at our coworkers, and eat an obscene amount of junk food.
How hard is it for you to say your truth?
What happens when you see something you are in complete disagreement with?
Do you squirm yourself to silence, inside?
Or flick out the truth like you were tossing a handful of coins in a fountain?
And how about the truth of the way you feel?
Like—let’s say—when you feel scorched with jealousy?
Or unhappy with the way your lover is treating you?
For many people, the challenges of the last few years have made kindness a bit of an afterthought – we seem shorter on kindness now than we were back in ’07. Though we can’t turn back the clock or control what will happen next, we can find ways to replenish our kindness reserves.
To do that, here are a few thoughts on how to get your kindness groove back – and spread it to others who may need a dose just as much as you do. Not only will you make your corner of the world a better place, but your kindness will also help give your body and mind a health-enhancing boost – a wonderful side-effect, so let’s get started:
Have you ever taken a moment to look around your house, office, car, etc. and compared how it looks to how you feel? If your house is clutter free, do you feel spacious and calm? If your office is a heap of papers, does it invoke stress and anxiety in you? How about the reverse? Do your surroundings become disheveled or cleaner based on your frame of mind? Well, there are studies that prove this notion! Physical and emotional are always playing off each other, as we are discovering more and more with revelations around the mind-body connection. Body is not only your physical body, but your environment as well.
This short mindfulness practice is meant to be sprinkled throughout the day to support you in becoming more present, reducing stress, and being more effective in everyday life.
In this video, I demonstrate a restorative yoga pose that helps to elevate your mood and energize you when you are tired. When we support the back in this way and open the chest, we tend to feel more emotionally buoyant and physically energized.
I’ve suffered a lot in my life. From a young age, I was so busy figuring out how to survive, that looking compassionately—with love, warmth, and kindness—upon myself was simply too hard to come by. When I was introduced to Buddhism at 16, I began in my brain to grapple with healing from within, and started to believe, intellectually at least, in the power of compassion to soothe life’s hurts.